Is your bra so uncomfortable that you can’t wait to rip it off at the end of the day? Maybe things just aren’t the same after having children or breastfeeding? Let’s chat about four ways to know that your bra doesn’t fit you. Then I’m going to teach you some simple tricks on how to lift those #momboobs so they are perky in a bra (even after breastfeeding). Let’s get into it!
- 1. Straps. Are you always having to adjust your bra strap or are they sliding off your shoulder? If so, your bra does not fit you mama. If you have indents or grooves in your skin after taking your bra off for the day, it’s not working properly. Did you know that 80% of the bra’s support comes from the band? If the straps are the major support for your boobs – I’m sorry but you’re doing it wrong!
- 2. Band. If your band is riding up in the back and making the shape of a rainbow, it’s probably too big. Yep, too big. Like I said above, the band holds 80% of the load, so if the band is riding up it’s not fitting you snug enough. Also, for larger chested ladies, a wider band is more beneficial because it better distributes the weight of the breasts. As far as the hooks in the back go, you should be able to wear it on the first, maybe the second set of hooks. The hooks are to move in tighter over time as the bra stretches. So if you’re starting on the last set of hooks to make it tight when you first buy it, it’s too big.
- 3. This one is my favorite because you can spot this on anyone, it’s not something that only you notice. I could look into a sea of women at Target and say, “oh she has four boobs, her bra doesn’t fit.” If your breast tissue is spilling outside of your bra and you can pat it above the cup, your cup size is too small. So if your bra is cutting into the middle of your breast and your boobs are popping – and not in a pretty push up way – but your tissue is hanging outside of your bra and it should be inside your cup…it’s too small mama. It’s kind of like underwear. Have you ever seen people who are wearing the wrong underwear because it cuts their butt in half and they have four butts?! We don’t need four butts. We also don’t need four boobs. If you are wearing the proper bra, even with a large chest, you can even wear a v-neck and you won’t be spilling out.
- 4. Your bra moves. When you take off your shirt, does your bra ride up or move around? Do you feel like you’re always having to adjust it? If so, it’s not the right bra – it doesn’t fit and you need to get fitted. It’s crazy, but 80% of women wear the wrong bra size. Here’s the thing, if you don’t want to go get fitted for a bra because you think you have back fat…no, just no! We ALL have back fat because a bra pushes the tissue up, it’s called skin! But if the band is wide enough, supports, and fits you properly – then the band is working for you, and you’re not going to have any extra “back fat.”
There’s a myth that bra fittings for women who don’t have big boobs doesn’t matter. It matters SO much! The bra is the foundation just like skincare is to makeup. If you don’t have the proper skincare, your makeup isn’t going to look good, no matter how much you pay for it! You could try on shirts all day and blame the shirt for it gaping in the middle or it not fitting properly…but it’s probably your bra. I know it’s a pain to get fitted and it’s also a pain to spend money on something that nobody is really seeing except for you. I’m telling you it will make the biggest difference in your wardrobe. Getting the right undergarments is one of the easiest fixes to a lot of your wardrobe problems.
So now for the bra boob lifting trick you’ve been waiting for! I’ve gotten so much great feedback from everyone after chatting about this on The Purpose Show with Allie Casazza – Episode 197. I remember back when I was shown this at Nordstrom…I was like, “you’re kidding, I have to lift up my boobs and smooth them out?!” I was really kind of put off at first, like I’m not that old…I don’t need to be doing this! I did. After breastfeeding I did. It’s a little bit awkward at first, but I’ve been doing it for about four years now, since having Max.
I’m not a super expert on bras, but we’ll call this trick the Lift & Smooth. Okay, what you want to do when you go to put your bra on is bend over so that all of your breast tissue comes down into the cups. Then finish putting on your bra by hooking it in the back and adjusting the straps properly. Then this is the fun part – you want to take your hand all the way down into the bottom of the cup and pull your breast tissue up. Scoop ALL of it up like a push up bra would!
So, you’ve put on your bra and you’ve lifted up your breast tissue and you’re wondering why it doesn’t look all smooth and pretty. If your breast tissue is like mine and most of my clients, it’s kind of crepey, or just not as full and dense as it was before pregnancy and breastfeeding. The next step is to stand up straight and take two fingers (your index and middle fingers) from the center of your chest and slide them up towards your armpit, working the tissue to smooth it out. Obviously do this on both sides, then they should stay lifted like this all day and you shouldn’t need to adjust. This works for any bra – wireless bras, sports bras, any bra. I promise you it’s going to make a difference in how your shirts fit.
While this trick is great, my best advice is to get properly fitted for a bra. My favorite place to get fitted is Nordstrom because they have a wide range of brands and sizes. Bras are like jeans. I can wear one cup and band size in one brand, and another cup and band size in another brand. Having someone who really knows the brands and can bring you different types to see what works best for you is great since you might be one size here and one size there. My second favorite place to go for fittings is Soma. Even within one brand they know how each bra fits differently and they can put a bra on you and know that’s the right size, but maybe that style doesn’t work for you. Just like jeans, some women need a higher rise and some need a lower rise or maybe a wider leg, etc. We’re all different! They can fit you in a bra like I could fit you in jeans. So go get fitted at Nordstrom or Soma, stay away from Victoria’s Secret please, it’s just not good.
If you aren’t ready to go for a fitting, try the Lift & Smooth trick first and see what a difference it makes. It’s kind of like an at home little lift that you don’t have to pay for. Seriously it’s almost like you have new boobs, it’s pretty incredible! Be sure to tag or message me on Instagram @jammiebaker_ and let me know how it worked for you!